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Published on October 15, 2005 By Dr Guy In Blogging

My sister had a birthday yesterday!  I will not embarrass her with the age as I intend to send a link to this for her.  But let me tell you about her.

She was born of my stepfather and mother.  In fact, I had to sleep with my stepfather as he would not wake form anything and my mother was in the hospital in a difficult labor (this was the X0s - no birthing rooms!).  So about 2am, on October 14th in the year of our lord 19xx, I got a call.  I woke my step father and told him he was a father!

She was puny at birth!  So much so that when they finally came home (after about 5 days), I raced home from school to see my new sister!  I looked in the crib, and could not find her!  My mother pointed to a bump in the blanket and said that was her.  "she is so Dinky!".  And thus was born her nickname.  For 6 years at least!  Dinky was almost a toy to the other 4 of us, as the difference in the age, between my youngest (at the time) brother and her was 9 years.  I changed my first diaper on her, and yes, I dropped her as well (Sorry Sis!).

But to watch her grow, as I was an adolescent, was such a joy!  We had a German Shepperd who got pregnant (she died when we tried to have her spade), and we kept her littlelest puppy.  Sorry about that.  That was his name!  and he use to crawl in the crib with my sister and fight her for her bottle!  That was precious.

I did say I was the godfather, and indeed I am.  For in those days, Catholics were confirmed in the 4th grade, so I was qualified.

As we grew, I had other things that took  my time, and I did nor really pay a lot of attention to her, except when babysitting (Built in ones for my mother, eh?).  Before I knew it, I was off to college and she was off to school!  Where she did very well.  She is still the toeheaded among us (Guys do love blonds, right?).

After College, I married (that is all I will say), and we drifted apart.  I found out later why.  Needless to say the best thing that ever happened to me was my divorce.  I did not know why my family shunned me, until then.  They were not shunning me, just the ex and what she tried to do to the family.  But they never told me until the divorce.  In truth, would I have believed them before then?  Probably not.

After the divorce, my Ex was using my children against me (how dare you leave me you worthless worm!  I will make your life a living hell!  Just you wait my pretty).  Sorry, got off topic then.

Yes, I actually was suicidal at one point, and negicidal for a long period (i.e. you don't give a damn if you live or die).  But my Sis would not have it.  Although she had broken off contact me, because of my ex, long ago, when this happened, she jumped back in with both feet flying!

She got my mother to re-establish contact with me (something that my ex-wife, through lies, had convinced me to stop).  She bitch slapped me and grabbed me by the collar!  And told me to get out of it (not over, out).

And so I started to fight the ex.  And eventually got visitation restored with my children.  Some of them are damaged due to that, but that is no ones fault but mine and mostly, the Bitch.

After I started to heal, she had her own problems with her husband.  By this time, I had bought a big house, and it was barely occupied, except when my children were here.  She left her husband (no abuse, just neglect), and moved in.  And for a year, Brother and sister were house mates!  Along with her precious Son! My favorite nephew.

I asked for nothing, but she paid in full!  She took care of their food, and cleaned the house and yard (my back hurts after the raking and weed whacking today!) and this was one of those Mr. Clean houses!

Eventually, I met my wife.  I proposed.  The house was still more than big enough, but my sister knew that 2 women in a house (I don't know this!) is one too many, so she moved out.

She finally met a good man and married him, and while her first husband does have visitation with my favorite nephew, her husband is a father to him, a dad.  And a good one he is!  At first I thought he was too old!  Then I realized my baby sister was celebrating too many 29th birthdays as well!  So he is not.  And every time I visit her and talk to her, it is apparent that he loves her, and my nephew.

But I wanted to write this out of thanks.  For my God Daughter, My sister, My friend.  You were my first experience with a baby, and you have always been my precious little Dinky (sorry).  And you turned out to be my best friend.

Thank you for being all you have been to me.  I love you sis!  And always will. Happy belated birthday.


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on Oct 15, 2005
What a beautiful tribute Doc.... she must be one special lady.
on Oct 15, 2005

What a beautiful tribute Doc.... she must be one special lady.

She is!  She really is.  Thanks.

on Oct 15, 2005
She is! She really is.


Her bro is purdy special too
on Oct 15, 2005
That is so sweet.....really. What an awesome brother you were to her! I bet she is just as thankful for you as you are for her.

Thanks for sharing that!

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on Oct 15, 2005

Her bro is purdy special too

Perhaps one day I can return her giving in kind.  I hope so.

on Oct 15, 2005

That is so sweet.....really. What an awesome brother you were to her! I bet she is just as thankful for you as you are for her.

Well, except for the dropping!  Damn I wish I could forget that!  And make up for the times we missed.  She did most of the work.  I only grabbed her (about 12) when she said "My friends said" and did a my mother routine on her!

She probably does not remember that, but that was when I knew I was a grup!  And of course she grew out of that stage as all do.

on Oct 15, 2005
*sniff, sniff* Very nice.
on Oct 15, 2005
. I only grabbed her (about 12) when she said "My friends said" and did a my mother routine on her!
She probably does not remember that, but that was when I knew I was a grup! And of course she grew out of that stage as all do


I hope my oldest son is as good a big brother to my youngest. They are 7 years apart and right now, well it doesn't look promising. Any pointers on what I can do to help my 9 (10 next month) year old WANT to be a good big brother....besides paying him which works pretty well.

on Oct 15, 2005
That was the best present any big brother/godfather could give a girl! Thanks big brother and many wishes of love and happiness to you on Thursday the 20th!
on Oct 16, 2005

sniff, sniff* Very nice.

Thank you.

on Oct 16, 2005

Any pointers on what I can do to help my 9 (10 next month) year old WANT to be a good big brother....besides paying him which works pretty well.

It can only come with time.  As your younger one gets older, he will start to idolize the older one, and that is a ver y powerful aphrodesiac.  In my case tho, there was 12 years difference.  and I was her Godfather.  So of course that played a big part on my ego and my love of her.

on Oct 16, 2005

That was the best present any big brother/godfather could give a girl! Thanks big brother and many wishes of love and happiness to you on Thursday the 20th!

Thank sis.  Happy belated birthday.

Love, your older brother. (one of them at least. )

on Oct 16, 2005
InBloom here. Glad my article inspired you to write these lovely things about your sister. And this is crazy, but I found something else we have in common: the aunt I wrote about has a 2 year old grandchild (I think I mentioned her in the article), and do you know what one of her nicknames is? Dinky!! We also call her Dink...lol
on Oct 16, 2005
InBloom here. Glad my article inspired you to write these lovely things about your sister. And this is crazy, but I found something else we have in common: the aunt I wrote about has a 2 year old grandchild (I think I mentioned her in the article), and do you know what one of her nicknames is? Dinky!! We also call her Dink...lol


You and UDigit? LOL! Is he the irreverant side?

But thanks inBloom. These coincidences are getting spooky!

I did send a link to my sister, and you saw she did post an anon comment. I owe her a lot, and I would have never thought to attribute her this way if not for you. So I guess you are my inspiration?

UDigit sure is the comedian tho! I am thinking of sending him the headlines and letting him write the punch lines!

Thanks again! Happy Birthday in 4 days!
on Oct 16, 2005
Sorry to be a little late doc!

Beautiful story and thanks for sharing it!
Awwww, now i feel all weepy....

really is sweet .
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