When you blog in a community like Joeuser, and people read you, they form opinions of who you are and how you tick.  None of which can be true as some have shown us to be frauds.  Yet the ones that are at least semi sincere, and are not trying to be Hercules or WOnder Woman, will reveal parts of themselves in their writing.  Both in their blogs and in their comments.

So when someone changes their writing nuances, it is noticed.  At least by some.  That does not mean they are having a problem, indeed it may be just the opposite that we sense.  But we do sense it.  And some of us do get concerned.

I guess we should not.  At least not for all.  For we do care about Dharma's surgery, Texas Wahine's forced separation, and Island Gurls lost loves.  We express our sympathy and try to hand out platitudes that will help the injured person to heal, even tho we probably never will meet, and really are not real close.  But is it what makes JU a community.

We get personnas who try to trick us at times, and they rapidly reveal themselves to be jerks with few exceptions.  They parody us, and try to get undre our skin, but once discovered, they quickly disappear.  I equate them with adolescents who shine their hi-beams at you on a 2 lane road in the middle of the night.  FOr that is all they really are.

We get some who pretend they are more than they are. They are harmless and usually dont speak from the false authority they have bestowed upon themselves.  These are our eccentric Uncles.  The ones that fought the Kaiser in 1930, even tho everyone knows there was no Kaiser then.  They are harmless and kind of funny in their lies.  But these are not lies of hurt, just lies of facade.

But most of the people here are writing a life journal of the ups and downs the ins and outs.  We reveal parts of ourselves, but not all.  We keep parts private for our true loved ones.  But we do rant and rave and cry and laugh.  Most try to be respectful of others, and even in disagreement, the worst you will hear is a WTF!!!!!  We know these are our views we post and we are not going to be universally loved, read or listened to. SOmetimes we agree with those we normally dont agree with, and sometimes we disagree with those we normally agree with.

But the over riding issue for the majority of the community is respect.  We dont respect the personnas, or the trashers.  But we respect each other even in our disagreements.

But not all do.  Or do they?  As I said, we dont reveal all.  So when someone starts varying, we do get concerned.  And we ask.  But somethings are too sensitive for sharing within a cyber community. 

And that gives us one of 2 avenues.  Share more, or say no thank you.  But in doing the later, there are ways to deal with it.  Fuck you is one of them, but not very nice.  No thank you is another, and we can respect that.

I guess how you say no is as much a way of saying how you want to be treated within the community as is your respect for others.  Saying no politely means you respect the other, but they are getting too close.  Saying no disrepectfully means you are no better than pig spit so get out of my face.

And it goes a long way to how you will be viewed within the community, whether you are agreed with or disagreed with mostly.

This is my blog, and that is my opinion.