Sorry for the bad rendition and butchering of "I started a joke". But (as Iconoclast accused me of with another song), my article put that song in my head.
I closed that article as I saw that, while I was getting tea and sympathy (not wanted really), "you Are an ass" and some advice, that was not the purpose of the article. Indeed, I did let my temper get the best of me on several responses and to those I may have flamed, i do appologize.
No, the purpose of the article was to draw attention to a part of the law that makes fathers second class citizens. And as a side light, it also draws attention to the tyranny of SOME of the judiciary.
As an update, I am not sitting down and doing a pity pat party with my visitation, and I am documenting everything. But the main problem is that with children, time is not on your side, and while I may gain the day eventually, eventually, all my children will be grown and I will have missed out on it.
No, I am active in this for another reason. I do not see a resolution to it for my situation, but I hope, like the many support groups I have contacted and consulted (It is a special bookmark in my browser), to make sure it does not happen again.
To those that said "this is one sided", I can only offer you a DUH! It is my blog after all. I doubt my ex has the intelligence to create her own, but she is free to do so!
for those that said "Document". I am. But that will not help me as it will be too late, but at least perhaps it will help others.
And for those who harped on the custody issue, let me state, for the record, I did not contest that at first. We agreed. But when I saw her beat my youngest children, for the simple reason they had misbehaved (beat, not discipline), my heart broke and I cried out and told her to stop it. her response?
She ignored me.
While the tale is deffinitely one sided (have you ever written a dialogue that states both sides?), it is true and accurate. And for now, 2 of my 4 children are beyond her grasp. 2 are not. And those are the 2 that I still worry about, and yes, I do call Child Protective services on her, and even the Sheriffs department. (I was told there was nothing they could do, and I explained I just wanted my complaint on record).
I dont know when the pendulumm will swing back to the middle, but I really do hope it does not swing the other way and settles in the middle. I know there are a lot of cretins out there that could best be described as sperm donors. My father was one of them.
But there are also millions of fathers out there that are good and caring and loving. And are being denied what they want and deserve in the upbringing of their children. And they are the ones that are being cheated and treated like second class citizens. I do urge anyone who is interested to read MasterWriter's own blog on this issue as it did inspire me to post to get some notice.
his case is not a lot different. But like me, he is resigned that he cannot affect his chlidren's lives, and I think he wrote it as a call to arms so that perhaps in the future, other Masterwriters and Dr. Guys do not have to suffer the way we have.
that was my cause and my case. I appreciate all the comments, and appologize for a temper that surfaces quickly and violently when my children are called in to the question.
We only seek justice that is so far denied. And Hope we can make a difference for future fathers.
Peace and Hope to all.